So how do i know if this chick is play head games with me?

[pepsi71ocean]

So i have this older chick ive hooked up with before, but lately she has been sketchy.

over christmas we chatted and she said she would love to hook up with me, so then last week i called she didn't answer. So i texted her and ask if she wanted to hook up, and a day later she said sure i would love to and that she woudl call me the next day.

Next day came and went, well the next 3 days went by and no response. and she wouldn't answer her phone either.

so i know that older women have lives but im just not sure what is going on, any ideas on what to do?

She does contact me out of the blue but its far and few in between.

[Black Panther]

Take the lead and ask her.
If she doesn't reply to your calls, ask her when she happens to 'contact you out of the blue', if you're that eager.
If that doesn't work out.... move on.... :)

[MRCL]

Something similar happened to me recently, turned out she hooked up with her ex again and lacked the balls to tell me.

WELL, maybe your chick is different there, sometimes they simply forget that stuff, don't call or text her for a few days, if she doesn't contact you in that time frame do as BP said and move on.

[Black Panther]

sometimes they simply forget that stuff

Nope... chicks remember all to well.

The hard truth is that if they make you think that they "forgot" the awesome date you had together, take it to mean that either she's seriously found someone who's more compatible in the 'pretty-pink-princess-make-family-live-happily-ever-after-world' or if you're sure she hadn't been thinking of you as marriage material (in your case being an older woman this makes sense) then she's experienced mundane pleasures which you wouldn't be able to keep up with, or you were just her one night stand... I know it doesn't sound comforting but be sure you wouldn't be wanting to 'waste' your time on such a woman.

[pepsi71ocean]

Nope... chicks remember all to well.

The hard truth is that if they make you think that they "forgot" the awesome date you had together, take it to mean that either she's seriously found someone who's more compatible in the 'pretty-pink-princess-make-family-live-happily-ever-after-world' or if you're sure she hadn't been thinking of you as marriage material (in your case being an older woman this makes sense) then she's experienced mundane pleasures which you wouldn't be able to keep up with, or you were just her one night stand... I know it doesn't sound comforting but be sure you wouldn't be wanting to 'waste' your time on such a woman.

so even though she said she was single, and that she hasn't hooked up with anyone, it seemed like she was looking to hook up, its possible she doesn't want to, and that she is stringing me along?

i just can't figure out why she sounded like she would love to, like you could tell in her voice, but i guess sounds are deceiving.

[Papahyooie]

i just can't figure out why she sounded like she would love to, like you could tell in her voice, but i guess WOMEN are deceiving.

Fixed.

Sorry couldnt help it. :p

Whats it worth to you? Are you looking for more than "hooking up"? (which in my corner of the country means NSA sex, but i know it can just mean dating to some people) Then forget about her. Been there, done that. Girls get angry when guys lead them on for sex, but the truth is, chicks are WAY better at it than guys are. You're better off moving on. However, if "hooking up" is all you want, then why worry about it? When she gets lonely she'll call you, and if you dont mind being used like that, then theres nothing but benifit for you. The only thing is, she's older and therefore more experienced in such things, and so it's going to be on HER terms, not yours.

[pantherx12]

Next time you get her on the phone simply ask straight up what's going on.

Its the easiest way, if your not happy with the way the relationship is going ( I use the term relationship in its widest sense) then you need to say something, even if its " no more thanks"


Or my favourite " I'll take my business elsewhere" if they have a sense of humour ha ha

[pepsi71ocean]

yea it is more of a hookup type of relationship i just wisah she would be more honoest.

Next time you get her on the phone simply ask straight up what's going on.

Its the easiest way, if your not happy with the way the relationship is going ( I use the term relationship in its widest sense) then you need to say something, even if its " no more thanks"


Or my favourite "I'll take my business elsewhere" if they have a sense of humour ha ha

im liking that one.

[Papahyooie]

Why is honesty important in a "hookup" type relationship to you? Im guessing since it is, you want more out of the relationship? If thats the case, better turn around now. From what you say, it won't happen, and you're bound to get hurt.

[pantherx12]

Why is honesty important in a "hookup" type relationship to you? Im guessing since it is, you want more out of the relationship? If thats the case, better turn around now. From what you say, it won't happen, and you're bound to get hurt.



I still like people to be honest even if I'm only seeing them in the bedroom.

After all you don't want to ask " You sure your clean right?" and not trust them :laugh:


Do have to say though, the advise you gave was very sage, I did how ever need to make a joke there.

[Papahyooie]

Thats very true, even if it was a joke. But if youre engaging in such activity its the risk youre taking. Hell they may not even know themselves if they arent "clean." In my opinion though, that sort of honesty is different from a "committment" type of honesty (ie, she'll come when she says she's going to)

[pantherx12]

Thats very true, even if it was a joke. But if youre engaging in such activity its the risk youre taking. Hell they may not even know themselves if they arent "clean." In my opinion though, that sort of honesty is different from a "committment" type of honesty (ie, she'll come when she says she's going to)

True, but subconsciously you won't differentiate between the two.

Not that it matters particularly as you said.

To be honest O.P if I were in your boots I would not bother.

If you having just a sexual relationship but prefer them to be reliable/honest about things, go for a woman that is those things.

If your after more then a sexual relationship then you should do the same too.

[pepsi71ocean]

im wondering if she has just lost interest and is tagging me along for the ride.

but another friend suggested that she is dating other people and keeping me on the back burner.

Although your right im sure she doesn't know she is clean or not, although for the year and 1/2 it lasted i was clean, and no we never did bag it, and well yea that was stupid bit hey she was 2x my age, lol

[pantherx12]

im wondering if she has just lost interest and is tagging me along for the ride.

but another friend suggested that she is dating other people and keeping me on the back burner.



How much do you know about her by the by?

As my Initial thought was she could be married : /

[pepsi71ocean]

How much do you know about her by the by?

As my Initial thought was she could be married : /

well she was 43 and going through a divorce at the time. and i guess i carried her through the divorce, i never knew her true age till about a year later on, but i always suspected her to be in her 30's.

She has 3 kids, 8,14,18 at the time so add 2 years to it. her oldest is about a year younger then me.

And we hit it off really well, i just don't know where it all went. what a disappointment that no we rarely talk and just on holidays, except for these damm "so you free wanna hook up text messages"

[pantherx12]

Aye sounds to me like its not going to go anywhere in terms of a relationship, I'm sorry to say.
Out of curiosity how old are you? You "talk" as if your in your 20s but I can't really tell.

[Papahyooie]

so wait youre in your 20s and she's in her 40s. Not a good combo bro. A woman like that will chew you up and spit you out. Go find yourself a nice 18 year old, then trade her in for another when she turns 20 until the day you die. You'll be much better off.

[pepsi71ocean]

Aye sounds to me like its not going to go anywhere in terms of a relationship, I'm sorry to say.
Out of curiosity how old are you? You "talk" as if your in your 20s but I can't really tell.

im 21, but quite experienced for my age.

i don't mind people my age if they are of the same mindset, and well skill.

[erocker]

Older woman found other man. Move on.

[pantherx12]

im 21, but quite experienced for my age.

i don't mind people my age if they are of the same mindset, and well skill.

Regardless of that, do you think she wants her children's potential new father to be the same age?


Women like this are fine and dandy for just sex/ spending time with but you can't have expectations of a relationship.

Just put yourself in her shoes.

[Wile E]

You were a rebound, and now have been relegated to occasional booty call duty until she finds a permanent relationship. Hit it as long as she'll let you, then move on.

[MRCL]

As hard as it sounds, you are her sextoy. Highfive yourself for scoring a MILF, and then move on. More importantly, don't even touch a women with kids unless you are absolutely sure you want to be with her.

[yogurt_21]

im wondering if she has just lost interest and is tagging me along for the ride.

but another friend suggested that she is dating other people and keeping me on the back burner.

Although your right im sure she doesn't know she is clean or not, although for the year and 1/2 it lasted i was clean, and no we never did bag it, and well yea that was stupid bit hey she was 2x my age, lol

so she's 43 you're 21, a year older than her oldest son, never did have sex, and are expecting exactly what here?

I mean I'm sorry to say it but from what you've posted this entirely existed in your own head. It's not sexy for her to have to think about the fact that when she was changing her first diapers, you still hadn't graduated to the big boy potty. To even be able to apply for cougartown you first need to find one that has younger kids or no kids at all. I mean shoot what is this you're best freinds mom?

[DanTheBanjoman]

im 21, but quite experienced for my age.

i don't mind people my age if they are of the same mindset, and well skill.

I hereby give you permission to post a list of items you had up your anus.

[Black Panther]

Pepsi, forget the topic of this thread... Imagine that she does want you and is texting you seriously etc etc... I would suggest against you going into a serious long-term relationship. The age difference is too much...
OK she looks good at 43, I'm sure she does. But she won't remain 43 forever.

I mean heck imagine you're 38 and in the prime of your life, you go out with your friends accompanied by their young 35 year old wives, and your wife would be a 60 year old pensioner.... :/

[pantherx12]

I mean heck imagine you're 38 and in the prime of your life, you go out with your friends accompanied by their young 35 year old wives, and your wife would be a 60 year old pensioner.... :/

Some people are into that wrinkly saggy look! ha

[pepsi71ocean]

Some people are into that wriggly saggy look!

LMAO! just for a hook up nothing more.